Choosing A Reputable Surrogacy Agency
Chances are, if you’re reading this your search history is filled with questions about surrogacy and you’re ready to call that agency that your friend’s sister’s cousin used 5 years ago when she was a surrogate. Before you jump on the first agency you find, pump those metaphorical brakes, choosing the right one is one of the most important decisions you’ll make.
Just because an agency is down the street doesn’t mean it’s the best fit. The truth is, surrogacy agencies work with surrogates from all over, and the best one for you might be a few states—or even time zones—away. Thanks to Zoom, email, and the magic of overnight shipping, distance really isn’t a big deal. What is a big deal? Finding an agency that respects you, communicates well, and doesn’t make you feel like just another number. So, don’t settle just because they’re local.
When it comes to picking a surrogacy agency, two names you’ll want to know are SEEDS and ASRM. SEEDS (Society for Ethics in Egg Donation and Surrogacy) and ASRM (American Society for Reproductive Medicine) basically set the rulebook for doing things the right way—ethically, safely, and without any shady business. If an agency follows their guidelines, that’s a big green flag.
Before signing with an agency, do some digging. Even if an agency follows SEEDS and ASRM guidelines, do your homework, read surrogate reviews, check success stories, and look for a strong track record. There are entire Facebook groups devoted to agency reviews from actual surrogates who used or ran from them! A reputable agency won’t shy away from sharing testimonials or connecting you with past surrogates who had positive experiences. If you notice a pattern of complaints or unresolved issues, take it as a warning sign.
A solid agency isn’t just going to take anyone who applies. They’ll carefully screen surrogates to make sure they’re physically and emotionally ready for the process. That means medical tests, background checks, and psychological evaluations. Agencies that take screening seriously protect both surrogates and intended parents. If they’re skipping steps or rushing you through, be cautious.
A good agency is upfront, no fluff, no dodging questions. They clearly explain the process, expectations, and support, so you always know what you’re signing up for, including compensation, medical procedures, and legal protections. They also handle payments properly, with clear schedules and escrow accounts, no chasing down money. If an agency is vague, avoids questions, or delays payments, consider it a red flag.
Let’s be honest—surrogacy can be hard. A great agency will offer real support, not just lip service. That means access to counseling, support groups, and a team that checks in on you throughout the journey. Your case manager, who also works with your intended parent(s), should be your go-to person with any question or concern.
Surrogacy is life-changing, and your agency will shape your entire experience. Trust your gut, ask all the questions, and never settle for anything less than full transparency and real support.